I have a crush on RH Reality Check. It’s one of the few online communities that doesn’t flinch, or try to be PC or accommodate differing views (hence their name: RH Reality Check).
I also have a crush on everyone losing their shit over Komen. Full disclosure: when I ordered my second set of checks when I was 23 years old (about 6-7 years ago and 6-7 years after I opened my teenage checking account at 17 and felt like a grown-up) I ordered Susan G. Komen Foundation checks. My sister, the one who never gave up on me even when I rolled my eyes at her seemingly outdated feminism at the ripe old age of 18, asked me why I made breast cancer my cause.
I don’t think she was asking because she thought it was inherently wrong or bad, but I think she was genuinely curious. Looking back, I’d probably feel the same. At 23, why was I choosing breast cancer over contraception, safe sex, STIs, or the millions of other (reproductive/health) issues that affected women my age? Cancer is devastating. I lost my father to it less than a year ago. None of the issues are better or worse than the other, but it’s not as though at 23 I knew anyone directly affected by breast cancer, or any cancer for that matter. I did know women with unwanted pregnancies, and women and men with unwanted sexual experiences, STIs, and so forth. Why was I writing checks for Susan G Komen? Well, I was 23. Breast cancer was packaged up neatly, and in my favorite color: pink! I could do my part without taking a stand or being polarizing. Who wouldn’t want to save the boobies? Obviously something changed in me, as my next set of checks featured the NOW logo. (I now write so few checks I feature my bank’s logo).
I digress. RH Reality Check posted this today: http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/article/2012/02/01/standing-with-planned-parenthood-without-apologizing-abortion
I shared it on Facebook and said this:
Such a great post. Of course I want everyone to stand with Planned Parenthood, but when we start quoting “it’s only 3% of what they do!” it’s a disservice to the organization and similar to those who defend abortion “in cases of rape and incest.” Stop apologizing / making excuses - everything Planned Parenthood does is completely necessary for women to be completely healthy - physically, mentally, financially, etc.
Here’s what I mean when I say “Of course I want everyone to stand with Planned Parenthood, but when we start quoting ‘it’s only 3% of what they do!’ it’s a disservice to the organization and similar to those who defend abortion “in cases of rape and incest.”
When someone says they are anti-choice, I have a modicum (NOTE: NOT EMOTICON) of respect for them if they believe abortion is wrong in all circumstances. If you genuinely believe in souls, and life beginning at conception, then why is it ok to abort in cases of rape and incest? If when the sperm meets the egg a soul is formed that is a life, why are you ok with ‘murdering’ that soul, regardless of circumstance?
If someone is against abortion except in cases of rape or incest I have to ask “Why?” If you believe an innocent life is being murdered, why is the mother’s life suddenly more valuable? All things equal, shouldn’t the ‘innocent life’ who hasn’t had a chance yet deserve it more than the mother?
I suppose I just have (some) respect for people who make no excuses for their beliefs or try to excuse anything. We may be polar opposites, but I have an easier time respecting someone who stands for something through and through.
Basically, if you stand with Planned Parenthood, you support a woman’s right to choose regardless of the circumstance. If you need to put a caveat on that, you don’t stand with PP. You aren’t pro-choice.
If you stand with Planned Parenthood, you don’t make excuses. You trust women to make the right decisions for themselves.